1. Heart advice on Dharma practice

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    Buddha and Khema - Ariyamagga

     

    by 17th Karmapa

    In the first of two sessions this morning, the 17th Karmapa clarified what it means to really practice Dharma.

    First he dealt with some misconceptions. Many people have mistaken expectations about Tibetan Buddhism. They believe that Tibetan Buddhist practices have magical properties or miraculous powers that can solve all problems; if you’re ill, a Lama or prayers will heal you; if you have economic problems you will become rich. Though some advanced practitioners may be able to cure illness and help others, His Holiness warned that this is very unusual.

    The practice of Dharma is not intended to solve such problems.“The practice of Dharma is there to solve the most fundamental problems in life,” he explained. What are these problems? However healthy we are, however successful or rich, there is no guarantee that we will be happy. We all experience mental suffering, agitation, and negative emotions. How then can we ever find peace of mind and happiness? The answer is that we can only become truly happy by transforming our minds: “The main purpose of Dharma practice is to train and transform your mind. Other things are incidental, not the main focus.”

    A second misconception is that we have to give up a normal way of life to become a Dharma practitioner. On the contrary, Dharma practitioners need to integrate Dharma practice into every aspect of their lives, and use everyday activities as a way of practising Dharma.

    A third misconception is that because we are Dharma practitioners, we should be perfect.We shouldn’t be short-tempered. We shouldn’t be jealous. We shouldn’t have too much attachment, and so forth. This leads some people to suppress these emotions, and, because they feel ashamed by them, they pretend not to have them. His Holiness advised that suppressing these negative emotions is of no help whatsoever, as we have avoided dealing with them directly. If we continue in this way, there is the danger that we may even begin to suffer from mental problems or a point will come when we can’t control the emotions any longer and they burst out in a very destructive way.

    His Holiness assured everyone that it was a mistake to believe that negative emotions are “not allowed” because you are a Dharma practitioner. On the other hand, as a Dharma practitioner, you should not feel free to give them full rein either. What a Dharma practitioner should do is work with these negative emotions slowly, step by step, and learn how to control them, and, thus, eventually be rid of them. Speaking in English, from his own experiences of negative emotions, the Karmapa said: “Because I’m the Karmapa, people in their mind think I’m like the Buddha or like a god—no emotion. If I show anger they are shocked or they think I’m just playing. Sometimes, I’m really angry and they think, ‘How can the Karmapa be angry?’ “

    He continued: “The day we become Dharma practitioners we don’t become a nice person. Working with emotions such as anger or hatred takes a long time, perhaps five or six years of inner dialogue with our negative emotions.”

    Sometimes we fail to recognise negative emotions. However, by carefully observing our minds, we can familiarise ourselves with them. If we do this, we will not have to force the negative emotions into submission, they will diminish naturally.

    His Holiness provided a story to illustrate this: Once upon a time there was a couple, who lived with their in-laws. The young wife had a very difficult relationship with her mother-in-law. The wife loved her husband and didn’t want to hurt him, but the situation with the mother-in-law was intolerable. So, in the end she decided that her only way out was to kill her mother-in-law.

    Kassapa Buddha and dragon - Ariyamagga

    She went to a doctor who gave her a medicine that he said would kill the mother-in-law slowly. It would take about a year. The doctor advised the wife that she should add the medicine daily to her mother-in-law’s food, but, when she was offering the poisoned food, she should always pretend to be kind and respectful.

    The wife followed the doctor’s instructions. However, as time went on, she found that her relationship with her mother-in-law had changed, and they had become much closer. Now the wife no longer wanted to kill her mother-in-law, but she was fearful that the effects of the poison she had been administering might be irreversible. Frantically, she consulted the doctor. How could she undo the work of the poison?

    The doctor reassured her. He had not prescribed poison at all. His intention from the beginning had been to heal the relationship.

    We should deal with our negative emotions in a similar way and learn to understand our mind.

    The heart of Dharma practice: The three trainings

    Having contemplated the four thoughts that turn the mind to Dharma, and having understood the purpose of Dharma practice, how should one practise Dharma? His Holiness addressed this issue by giving a short explanation of each of the three trainings in ethical conduct, meditation, and wisdom. “All of Dharma practice is contained in these three,” he said.

    The first training is in conduct. Human beings, unlike most other sentient beings, have moral discernment: we can distinguish between what to do and what not to do. But we often make mistakes because we are too short-sighted; we focus on temporary benefits and do not consider the long term.

    The 17th Karmapa is well-known for his concern for the environment and his appeal for a world with less greed and more compassion. As an illustration of focusing on temporary benefits, he spoke of how, in order to gain short-term comforts for themselves, humans have created long-term effects which are causing great harm to other living beings and the environment. His Holiness stressed that we should never exploit the world we live in for the purpose of short-term benefits. He suggested that too many people regard the earth as an object that they can use as they like, and ultimately all her resources will be exhausted. But the earth provides for all our needs and gives us life.

    “Rather than considering the Earth as a material thing, we should consider it as a mother who nurtures us; from generation to generation we need this loving mother,” he urged.

    In addition, because of our self-centred attitude, we commit grave errors. On an individual level, we sometimes do things which cause harm to many others in order to ensure our own comfort. On a larger scale, one country might destroy the peace and happiness of other countries solely for its own benefit. Similar actions can be directed against different ethnic groups or different religions. Returning to an environmental theme, His Holiness gave a further example of our selfishness, reminding everyone of the cruelty and disregard with which humans treat defenceless wildlife. We destroy their habitats, dispossess them, and even kill them for our own benefit. In summary:

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  2. When a negative emotion arises

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    When a negative emotion arises, there’s no need to be afraid or nervous, just look at that situation, regard that negative emotion as being like a person who tells lies. There’s no truth behind it.Then the negative emotion will lose its power, though this technique may not completely uproot the negative emotions. It is viewed as the union of the two forms of meditation, shamatha and vipasshyana, because your mind is peaceful but you are aware of the emotions and thoughts arising. Thus you recognise the nature of your mind.

    The day we become Dharma practitioners we don’t become a nice person. Working with emotions such as anger or hatred takes a long time, perhaps five or six years of inner dialogue with our negative emotions.

    Sometimes we fail to recognise negative emotions. However, by carefully observing our minds, we can familiarise ourselves with them. If we do this, we will not have to force the negative emotions into submission, they will diminish naturally. ~17th Karmapa

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  3. Seven (7) Up’s for a wonderful life

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    1. Wake Up!  Decide to have a good day.
    2. Dress Up! Put on a smile each day.
    3. Shut Up! Learn to listen.
    4. Stand Up! Stand up for what you believe in.
    5. Look Up! Look up to the Lord.
    6. Reach Up! Dream and aim for something higher.
    7. Lift Up! Lift up you prayers.

    ~Mildred 

     

  4. How much we’re blessed and loved

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    In life don’t think about the pain, we went through, but the lessons it taught, not how much we’ve been hurt & cried but how much we’re blessed and loved by God. ~Nini

     

  5. When things aren’t going right…

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    Some things are not meant to be kept forever… You know you have to stop  and let go when things aren’t going right, and everything you do is unappreciated. Remember what batman said? ‘it is wiser to be alone but happy… than with somebody who does nothing while you’re doing everything’ … ~Noemie

  6. Seek for silence

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    When things get awfully tiring, seek for silence, most of the time the loudest lessons are learned at the most quiet corners of our hearts. ~Kuya Rene

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  7. You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness

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    Those who have hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you now unless you hold on the pain in through resentment… Your past is past! Nothing will change it. You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness. For your own sake, learn from it, and then let it go. ~Mam Julie

  8. Some lessons…

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    Some lessons are best learned through pain. Sometimes, our visions clear only after our eyes are washed with tears. Sometimes, we have to be broken so we can be whole again. Remember: If God made the day to be perfect, He wouldn’t have invented tomorrow. ~Kirvy

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  9. If you learn something…

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    If you learn something that changes you, you’ve made progress. If you learn something that changes others, you’ve helped change the world. ~Lanie

  10. Don’t think of saying any unkind word

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    Today… don’t think of saying any unkind word. Think of the people who can’t speak. Don’t complain about the food you eat, some have nothing. Don’t complain about life, many die young. When you’re tired of your job, think of the jobless, the disabled and those who wish they had yours. When sad thoughts seem to put you down, paint a smile on your face that you’re still around. Life is a gift. Live it well. ~Mam Cell

     

Hermit of Tbeng Mountain

Sachjang Phnom Tbeng សច្ចំ​​ ភ្នំត្បែង is a very long and interesting story written by Mr. Chhea Sokoan, read by Jendhamuni Sos. You can click on the links below to listen. Part 1 | Part 2

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