How to Open Your Heart

The act of opening your heart is a bond of trust. It is the act of sharing the whims of the heart. You trust that you are being listened to and that the the person has a honest response. Opening your heart is not about good reception or making things better, it’s about making yourself understood.

1. It’s not about you. You know yourself, your heart and your love, they don’t. The first thing you need to know about opening your heart is that you don’t do it for yourself. Don’t expect a particular outcome; the truth is your goal.

2. Groundwork. You need to ensure that you are being listened to. When you open up to another person about your love, make sure that you have their total attention, make sure they are listening to you. Miscommunication is pointless pain.

3. Be honest, even if you don’t know what you feel or want. If they care, they will help you sort through whatever mess your heart is in.

4. Ask for honesty. Show your expectation of mutual trust.

5. Whatever happens, walk away with pride knowing you honored yourself, your feelings, and the your relationship with the other person. Nothing is a beautiful as honest love.

Source: wikiHow

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