How to Stop Crying when You Are Very Upset


1. Take deep breaths. Breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth, and extend your diaphragm as you do so. Although this may be painful if you’ve been crying for prolonged periods of time, the purpose is to relax. Continue even if your breathing is shaky.

2. Tense and relax your body. Once your breathing is fairly normal, try to find where the tension is in your body. Tense up the muscles in this area, hold for the count of five, and relax. Breathe and make a conscious effort to these and other tense areas, such as your shoulders and stomach.

3. Lay down in a position that is comfortable to you in your bed. Turn off the big lights, and turn on the soft nightlights or other small lamps.

4. Turn on some quiet music. Lose yourself in it. Turn this on quietly in the background. Talk to yourself in your head. Say stuff like (Everything is going to be ok) ,( It’s over) or (she is going to be ok).

5. Realize that life has its ups and downs. Crying isn’t a bad thing and that crying isn’t a bad thing to do, but that after a while, crying can actually hurt your body, so it’s important to try to relax.

6. Comfort yourself with the thought that eventually, all this will be a memory, and it won’t be as painful for you to think of, so try not to think about it.

7. Don’t be afraid to cry with a friend or family member. They have probably gone through what you have just experienced.

8. Take a break. If you cannot see the bright side to things, just lie down and go to sleep. You will feel so much better afterwards.

9. Go for a walk with a friend and talk about something that will make you laugh and remember to breathe.

10. Think of happy things. Avoid dwelling on what made you upset. Remember to focus on other things that make you happy.


  • Let yourself cry. The purpose of this is to relax after you’ve cried enough, and know this is just hurting you.
  • Try to go to sleep. Everything will look a little brighter in the morning.
  • Don’t talk to the person that you fought with till you are completely over it.
  • Splash your face suddenly with as much cold water as you can find. It will help reset your breathing, big time.
  • To stop yourself from crying in public, try raising your eyebrows as high as they will go, as if you are surprised. It is very difficult for tears to come out this way. Yawning, or chewing ice, might also help.
  • If you are in public and feel like crying, go into a place with a toilet, go into the bathroom stall and cry there. Then splash your face with water and dry your eyes to look more presentable.
  • Hold your breath, count to ten then release your breath. This will help calm you down, to the point where you no longer feel like crying.
  • It’s OK to cry to let your feelings out, and go somewhere when you can be alone and calm down.
  • If you need to calm down, get a washcloth damp with warm water and put it on your neck. If you’re already calmed down, get a cold washcloth and put it over your eyes or forehead to help you sleep and feel better.
  • Try not to think about it and sleep for a while if you can.
  • Whatever you do, do not go back and think about the thoughts of what happened. You’ll just start crying again if the subject that made you cry was thought-wise.
  • Have fun with your friends, play a game, and just forget about what happened.
  • Realize that it may take a while to relax, but don’t worry too much.
  • Scream into a pillow or underwater in the bathtub if you’re angry as well as upset.
  • Go outside (somewhere safe and alone) and throw rocks.
  • Try to talk to yourself in a calming, relaxing voice.
  • Crying can be good for you. Scientist have suggested that crying when you’re upset rids the body of excess hormones (this is why they have a different make up to “fake” tears), making you feel better.
  • Play with your dog.
  • If you’re still crying (as in, tears are still leaking out of your eyes) but you aren’t sobbing (your body isn’t wracked by heaving sobs, you don’t have shaky breathing, and can talk without stuttering too much) then you’re all right and do not need to relax any further.
  • Call a friend and tell them what’s wrong. If that friend isn’t available at the moment then find someone else. You will vent everything out, you can cry, scream, or just talk. You will feel better after you talk to someone.
  • Think of the bright side of things, and remember that when you look back on this, you will probably think it’s quite funny.
  • Write down whatever is making you upset.
  • Ask your mom if you can go somewhere that can cheer you up.
  • If trying to relax doesn’t stop you crying, go cuddle with your mom, sister, or dog. Just hold them close to you. Feeling the heartbeat of another living thing is soothing. If nothing living is around you, grab a stuffed animal.
  • Know that no matter where you are you have a world full of people to support you and back you up!
  • Stop crying and forget of what made you cry.
  • Do something routine, for example using the computer or watching TV.
  • If you are in public just pretend nothing happened and do not think about it.


  • Be careful on who you tell your problems to. They can always tell someone else.
  • Watch out for prolonged, heaving sobs. They will hurt your body, and you may have a stomach ache for a few days after. You may also feel sick to your stomach. All this is characteristic of stress.
  • You can’t trust everyone, make sure you talk to someone reliable and someone who has been through a similar situation.

Source: wikiHow

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