anger-Buddhism

What practical means have I developed

Comment May 23, 2016

Meditators need to be contented with material supports and discontented with the spiritual virtues and accomplishments they have already attained. In daily life this is something that can be applied anywhere. For instance, you have to go to a meeting or you have a particular task to perform, and you ask yourself what are the kinds of unwholesome dhammas that tend to arise: ‘When I meet that person I always get so irritated, he’s so selfish or so conceited.’ This is your meditation. Your practice that day is, ‘How can I spend an hour with that person without getting irritated with him, feeling averse to him or contemptuous of him?’ But in the case where you do lose your temper or get upset with somebody, you ask, ‘What strategies do I have, what practical means have I developed or should be developing to deal with that? And in a particular situation that I’m going to find myself in today – with my family, friends, colleagues at work – what are the wholesome dhammas, the particular kinds of virtues that I can be working on: right speech, patience, kindness, compassion? Where should I be applying those qualities? How should I be applying them? And those qualities that I have developed, how can I take care of them, nurture them and lead them even further onwards?’ ~Ajahn Jayasaro
There is none in the world…

Comment May 3, 2016

Conquer anger with non-anger. Conquer badness with goodness. Conquer meanness with generosity. Conquer dishonesty with truth. ~Buddha, The Dhammapada

RFA photo

They blame those who remain silent, they blame those speak much, they blame those who speak in moderation. There is none in the world who is not blamed. ~Buddha, The Dhammapada

RFA photo
The true hero…

Comment April 21, 2016

The true hero is one who conquers his own anger and hatred. ~Dalai Lama XIV

Vipassana Master Dejapanno Phorn Pheap, of Wat Kiryvongsa Bopharam, holding the Buddha Relics on Sunday the 11th Waxing Moon of Citta B.E.2559, April 17, A.D.2016 Year of the Monkey. Bhikkhu Dejapanno adhering strictly to the Tipitaka (Buddha’s Teachings). ព្រះភិក្ខុ តេជប្បញ្ញោ ផន ភាព ធម្មាចារ្យផ្នែកសមាធិ វិបស្សនាកម្មដ្ឋាន កំពុងកាន់ព្រះបរមសារី រិកធាតុនៃព្រះបរមសត្ថាទេវមនុស្សនំ នៅថ្ងៃអាទិត្យ ១១កើត ខែចេត្រ ឆ្នាំវក អដ្ឋស័ក ព.ស.២៥៥៩ ត្រូវនឹងថ្ងៃទី ១៧ ខែមេសា គ.ស.២០១៦។ ព្រះភិក្ខុ តេជប្បញ្ញោ ប្រកាន់ខ្ជាប់ខ្ជួនតាមគម្ពីរព្រះត្រៃបិដក។

Vipassana Master Dejapanno Phorn Pheap, of Wat Kiryvongsa Bopharam

Kali and the forest monk in western Massachusetts, U.S.A.
Holding on to Anger

67 February 25, 2016

Holding on to anger,
resentment and hurt
only gives you tense muscles,
a headache and a sore jaw
from clenching your teeth.
Forgiveness gives you back
the laughter and the lightness
in your life.

~Joan Lunden
In our daily life

Comment January 24, 2016

In our daily life, we encounter people who are angry, deceitful, intent only on satisfying their own needs. There is so much anger, distrust, greed, and pettiness that we are losing our capacity to work well together. Margaret J. Wheatley
Are defilements such as greed or anger merely illusory or are they real?

Comment January 17, 2016

Answer: They are both. The defilements we call lust or greed, or anger or delusion, these are just outward names, appearances. Just as we call a bowl large, small, pretty, or whatever. This is not reality. It is the concept we create from craving. If we want a big bowl, we call this one small. Craving causes us to discriminate. The truth, though, is merely what is. Look at it this way. Are you a man? You can say ‘yes’. This is the appearance of things. But really you are only a combination of elements or a group of changing aggregates. If the mind is free, it does not discriminate. No big and small, no you and me. There is nothing: Anatta, we say, or non-self. Really, in the end there is neither atta nor anatta. ~Ajahn Chah
What should I do when I feel anger arising?

Comment January 17, 2016

Answer: You must use loving-kindness. When angry states of mind arise in meditation, balance them by developing feelings of loving-kindness. If someone does something bad or gets angry, don’t get angry yourself. If you do, you are being more ignorant than they. Be wise. Keep in mind compassion, for that person is suffering. Fill your mind with loving-kindness as if he were a dear brother. Concentrate on the feeling of loving-kindness as a meditation subject. Spread it to all beings in the world. Only through loving-kindness is hatred overcome. Sometimes you may see other monks behaving badly. You may get annoyed. This is suffering unnecessarily. It is not yet our Dhamma. You may think like this: “He is not as strict as I am. They are not serious meditators like us. Those monks are not good monks.”; This is a great defilement on your part. Do not make comparisons. Do not discriminate. Let go of your opinion as watch your opinions and watch yourself. This is our Dhamma. You can’t possibly make everyone act as you wish or be like you. This wish will only make you suffer. It is a common mistake for meditators to make, but watching other people won’t develop wisdom. Simply examine yourself,your feelings. This is how you will understand. ~Ajahn Chah

RFA/Morm Moniroth
Fire with Fire

18 January 12, 2016

People who fight fire with fire usually end up with ashes. ~Abigail Van Buren
Heal the Sadness or Anger of Another

24 December 6, 2015

If you wish to experience peace, provide peace for another. If you wish to know that you are safe, cause another to know that they are safe. If you wish to better understand seemingly incomprehensible things, help another to better understand. If you wish to heal your own sadness or anger, seek to heal the sadness or anger of another. ~Dalai Lama
Desire, anger and stupidity

Comment November 30, 2015

Desire, anger and stupidity–
Engaging in those creates karma that is non-virtuous.
The fruit of non-virtue is experienced as suffering.
Free of attachment, free of aversion, and without stupidity–
Acting within those states creates karma that is virtuous.
The fruit of virtue is experienced as happiness.

— Shantideva