The door of understanding

From time to time, sit close to the one you love, hold his or her hand, and ask, 'Darling, do I understand you enough? Or am I making you suffer? Please tell me so that I can learn to love you properly. I don't want to make you suffer, and if I do so because of my ignorance, please tell me so that I can love you better, so that you can be happy." If you say this in a voice that communicates your real openness to understand, the other person may cry.

That is a good sign, because it means the door of understanding is opening and everything will be possible again.

We really have to understand the person we want to love. If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love. If we only think of ourselves, if we know only our own needs and ignore the needs of the other person, we cannot love. We must look deeply in order to see and understand the needs, aspirations, and suffering of the person we love. This is the ground of real love. You cannot resist loving another person when you really understand him or her. ~Thich Nha Hanh

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  1. Carlos Bation

    February 24, 2015

    Thanks to UR messages ..I appreciate..sleep well..hug and kisses..take UR time..Ingat my Lovely Lady

  2. Michael Cammock

    February 24, 2015

    Understanding comes with maturity and length of time together….

  3. Jayesh Thakkar

    February 25, 2015

    You are right Jen there are some differences between dialogues and communications . Have a successful day ahead +Jendhamuni Sos​.

  4. Ajay Agnihotri

    February 25, 2015

    Very nice sharing about loving and caring..thanks Jendhamuni..good night and tc

  5. Will Wooten

    February 25, 2015

    To love someone is to try to live in their skin. The most powerful kind of love. Once again thanks Jendhamuni.

  6. N Sekar

    February 25, 2015

    Emanate love with true understanding is the best philosophy to adhere to

  7. Sarady Kim

    February 25, 2015

    Bonjourj comment ça va, merci pou belle photo

  8. Animesh nandi

    February 25, 2015

    the door of understanding is opening and everything
    nice thoughts.. of aspiration..
    good after noon to you///.

  9. Sarady Kim

    February 25, 2015

    Wow, je n'est pas lire la clé est la tolérèrent pour tous et ça Vien toute seul, Oui si non,,,!

  10. garylee joy

    February 25, 2015

    Yes, true love is unselfish. This is the love of God. Thank you for sharing Jendhamuni Sos my dear friend.

  11. Carlos Bation

    February 25, 2015

    Good night jenh ..miss U hugs and kisses..Ingat my Lovely Lady

  12. Ken Connor

    February 27, 2015

    LOVE AND TRUST AND SINCERITY are the 3 things in life we need to understand one another.,,,,

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