Hold in your reactions. When you feel like you want to react to a situation, hold in the tears or shouting. Think about how you feel before you let yourself react. Once you start, it’s easy to snowball into a bigger reaction than the situation is really worth. Don’t bottle your emotions but do think of a better way to express them or save them until you are in a better, safer place.
- Waiting until the next day to talk to someone who upsets you, for example, can be really good. You’ll have the chance to calm down and you’ll be better able to defend and express yourself.
Keep some perspective. Think about the situation that’s happening around you and think about how it affects your life. Is it really as big a deal as it seems or is it really only going to set you off a little. Compare it to other problems that people might have, like getting cancer or having your house flood. Is it really that big a deal? No? Then don’t sweat it. Learning to let the small things slide off of you can really make a huge difference in how you experience your life.