1. Love and be loved

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    Part of our nature requires solitude, alone time, and a substantial rugged individualism. But this isn’t the whole story of our nature. We feel happier, warmer and better, live longer, and experience life as more meaningful if we love and let ourselves be loved. We must be individuals but we must also relate. To do both, to both be ourselves and relate, requires that we acknowledge the reality of others, include others in our plans, not only speak but listen, and makes ourselves fit by eliminating our more egregious faults and by growing up.

    Nothing causes more emotional distress than the thoughts we think. We must do a better job than we usually do of identifying the thoughts that don’t serve us, disputing them and demanding that they go away, and substituting more useful thoughts. Thinking thoughts that do not serve you is the equivalent of serving yourself up emotional distress. Only you can get a grip on your own mind; if you won’t do that work, you will live in distress.

    Source: Psychology Today

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/love-and-be-loved.html

  2. Jendhamuni and the lotus plants again, of course!

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    My lotus plants look so beautiful and healthy!
    In case you don't know, this is now my favorite shirt. I like this shirt a lot because it has so many colors. Also it has a huge flower in the front. And looks a lot better too, outside, nothing like you see in this photo! Oh, the shirt does not look that good, unless you wear a smile!;)

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/jendhamuni-and-lotus-plants-again-of.html

  3. Emotional Pain

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    Life, while mostly enjoyable, does have its ups and downs. The sun shines on the evil and the good. Pain is an inevitable part of life. Never think that you've been singled out for pain. We all seem to understand that physical pain takes time to subside, and as the wound or illness that caused the pain heals, the pain will ease. What we have more trouble with is realizing that emotional pain also takes time to heal.

    Endure it. Things that cannot be cured must be endured. It sounds obvious, but sometimes, thinking of emotional pain as if it were physical pain can be very helpful. Think of your broken heart just as if it were your arm that is broken instead. A broken arm takes time to heal, and it hurts like crazy just after it's broken, even after it's been set and casted. A few days later, it doesn't hurt so much. But weeks or even months later, if you bump or jar it, that pain can come roaring back to life with a vengeance. You baby it a little, take care not to aggravate it, and eventually, it's stronger where it was broken than it was before. You have no choice – you can't cut off the arm. That won't make it hurt any less. You just have to endure it while it heals.

    Source: wikiHow

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/emotional-pain.html

  4. Sharing really is caring

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    Sharing really is caring. If you want to be a more caring person, then you should be willing to share your things. This means sharing things you actually care about, like clothes you like, or half of your favorite sandwich, not sharing something that means nothing to you, like a book you didn't like much anyway. Be on the lookout for opportunities to share things, whether it's a material object or a piece of advice. People who are caring are unselfish, and sharing is a key trait of a person who is selfless.

    Sharing doesn't only mean material goods. You can also share knowledge. Take the time to talk to a high school student about the college admissions process if you're in college. Talk to someone starting out in your career field about your experiences. Help a younger person on your tennis team master her forehand. Look for opportunities to improve a person's life by sharing what you know.

    Source: wikiHow

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/sharing-really-is-caring.html

  5. The most powerful and heartbreaking images of the little monk

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    Little monk from my homeland, Cambodia, brings food to his father who is in jail. This is an example of an unconditional love. We should love our parents, unconditionally. We would not be here, without them. Even if they are hated or rejected by everyone in the society, still, as the son or daughter, we should never reject our parents. We must reach out to them, extend our love and compassion, just like the ocean, that does not reject anyone… ~Jendhamuni

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/the-most-powerful-and-heartbreaking.html

  6. The joy and happiness

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    Appreciate the people in your life
    If you want to be a more caring person, then you have to appreciate the people in your life as much as you can. Be thankful and grateful for your family members, your friends, your significant other, or any of the people who make your life more meaningful and positive. Don't focus on the things that you're missing or the rude comments you have to deal with sometimes, and think about all of the joy and happiness that people bring to your life instead. This will not only put you in a better frame of mind, but it will make it easier for you to care about the people around you more.

    Source: wikiHow

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/the-joy-and-happiness.html

  7. People in your life

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    Being caring allows you to have empathy for others and to live a life based on affection, love, and compassion for the people around you. It can be tempting to fall into a life of selfishness and to focus only on your own goals and desires, but your days will be far more rewarding if you think about what the people in your life are thinking and feeling. Being caring means providing a listening ear, noticing when someone needs help, and helping your community without asking for a reward.

    Source: wikiHow

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/people-in-your-life.html

  8. I have learned

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    I think if I've learned anything about friendship, it's to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don't walk away, don't be distracted, don't be too busy or tired, don't take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff. ― Jon Katz

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/i-have-learned.html

  9. The thoughts of God

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    You can never become a great man or woman until you have overcome anxiety, worry, and fear. It is impossible for an anxious person, a worried one, or a fearful one to perceive truth; all things are distorted and thrown out of their proper relations by such mental states, and those who are in them cannot read the thoughts of God. ~Wallace D. Wattles 

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/the-thoughts-of-god.html

  10. No matter how things go wrong

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    Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

    We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

    ~Marc and Angel

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/no-matter-how-things-go-wrong.html

  11. What it truly means to Love someone

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    It’s the Energy of Love that binds The Uni-verse together. Love is what breathes life into us and gives all living things this chance to be alive.

    If you say you Love someone because of what they can give you, that’s not Love, that’s selfishness. When you Love someone, it’s always from a place of overflow rather than lack.

    Love is letting go because no one feels Loved when they are controlled or manipulated. No one really feels Loved when they can sense that someone is trying to take from them instead of give.

    By  Mastin Kipp, The Daily Love

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/what-it-truly-means-to-love-someone.html

  12. 25 Awesome tips for a Beautiful Life

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    1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day and while you walk, Smile. It is the ultimate antidepressant.
    2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
    3. When you wake up in the morning, Pray to ask God’s guidance for your purpose, today.
    4. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
    5. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, broccoli, and almonds.
    6. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
    7. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
    8. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.
    9. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
    10. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Forgive them for everything!
    11. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
    12. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
    13. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
    14. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
    15. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
    16. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?’
    17. Help the needy, Be generous ! Be a ‘Giver’ not a ‘Taker’
    18. What other people think of you is none of your business.
    19. Time heals everything.
    20. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
    21. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
    22. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
    23. Each night before you go to bed ,Pray to God and Be thankful for what you’ll accomplish, today !
    24. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
    25.Share this to everyone on your list to help them lead a happier life.

    By Dr. Sanjay Gupta

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/25-awesome-tips-for-beautiful-life.html

  13. Trying to get you a rainbow so you could smile

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    Be someone else’s sunshine. Be the reason someone smiles today.
    Very beautiful sun ray shining through branches of trees in the forest. A seven-year-old girl shot this photo of me, while my right arm was reaching out to touch a leaf on one of the branches. But looks as though I'm touching a rainbow, in this picture.

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/trying-to-get-you-rainbow-so-you-could.html

  14. Practice forgiveness with yourself and with others

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    Practice forgiveness with yourself and with others. Being unable to forgive compels you to discontent and internal war. Holding old grudges, being bitter and fueling constant anger create an inner turmoil that chains you to reliving past hurts. Do you really enjoy lugging that ball and chain around? Worst still, your health is impacted by long-lived grievances and your blood pressure, heart rate, physical and spiritual health will be suffering.

    It is hard to live a calm life when you constantly hate, feel a need to avenge and see ghosts in every shadow. Forgiveness allows room for kindness and self liberation. Forgiveness nurtures a sense of calm because you no longer spend a big part of your life resenting other people.

    Remind yourself that when you forgive, you remove the toxic feelings from your life; it is not about condoning what another person did but it is about no longer letting that person's actions run your outlook on life.

    When you feel yourself getting angry at someone that hurt you, try to stop and think. Breathe slowly for a second. Does being angry make your life better? Does the hate you feel make you happy? Would the people that really love you want you to keep suffering like this? The answer to all of these questions is "no"…so release those negative feelings and seek out positive ones instead.

    Source: wikiHow

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/practice-forgiveness-with-yourself-and.html

  15. 5 Ways to Nurture Love

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    Here are 5 ways that people in loving relationships can nurture their love, provide emotional guidance and support, and build a strong foundation for lasting love.

    1. Respect
    Respect requires a commitment to support each other's needs with mindfulness. One of the strongest characteristics of a nurturing couple is that each person has as much knowledge about the other as humanly possible. The curious thing is that many couples lack complete information about each other, even after 10 years of marriage or a lifetime of being a parent. Without taking the time to know the other person, you won't be able to understand the totality of the person you say you love. The pitcher and catcher know everything about their relationship and the respect is manifested on the field. It takes energy and dedication to know your partner's particular likes, dislikes, thoughts, and feelings. But the investment in time and energy will only deepen your respect for your special person.

    2. Touch
    I'm always fascinated to see a couple who has been together a long time or a parent and child still hold hands, link arms, give each other warm kisses on the cheek and hug each other like they mean it. We know that familiarity through touch is strongest in the early stages of a relationship. Over time, the physical nourishment that comes from touching can easily be lost. Intimacy comes in many forms: an active sex drive can fortify physical contact with partners outside the bedroom; best friends can hug; a son can put his arm around his mother; two sisters can hold hands. Reach out for a kiss, a hug, or a squeeze of the hand. And never let your loving friend or partner leave the house without a touch or an "I love you." Finally, take a clue from the catcher in baseball and make a daily intention to give as many non-verbal communications as possible.

    3. Communication
    It is a wise person who has a mental notebook with stored information about those they love-dreams, drives, emotional triggers, dislikes, goals, joys fears, best friends, favorite teams, movies, books, and every level of importance that affects the partner. The catcher and pitcher keep a running mental log of everything that is important for the pitch. So, too, should a partner remember and bring into the conversation all that is known about the other. After that, make an intention to bring new information into conversations to spark interest, stay curious, and make future plans. Try not to get trapped in negatives and unrealistic expectations. Talk everything out in detail without anger, recrimination, or blame. And make sure you know where the laughs are. There is nothing more exciting than humor to nurture a relationship.

    4. Compromise
    How we love to be right! How we love the other to be wrong! Eliminate the ego's need to be right all the time and the decision-making process in a relationship will be much easier to handle. Park your ego outside the door when you are about to encounter opposing opinions. Agree to negotiate before you negotiate. Like the catcher and pitcher, prepare time to decide the ground rules: no blame, accusations, and neither party will be the enemy. Stick to the pre-agreement rules and compromise will be a nurturing process rather than a prelude to anger. This is undoubtedly one of the most challenging aspects of a relationship and one that takes particular attention and a great deal of stamina.

    5. Attentiveness and Listening Skills
    We all know we don't listen fully in a conversation. How many times have you heard, "Are you listening to me?" It's human nature to tune out what we don't want to hear due to lack of interest or couple or friendship fatigue. Yet, when your partner is speaking, it is the most important time to tune in. What if the catcher signals to the pitcher and the pitcher isn't fully present? Active listening is crucial. Give feedback when appropriate. Don't interrupt someone's thought, let the idea come to fruition and then respond. A wandering mind can miss important information and significant details that impact the future.

    A loving strategy is important to sustain a loving relationship. Remember, everyone is playing on the same team.

    By Joan Moran

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/5-ways-to-nurture-love.html

  16. What Makes a Soul Beautiful

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    Materialistic items aren’t the main focus of life, they have so much importance in the modern world that it is difficult to realise how little these items mean.  We do not need to have everything to live a happy and fulfilling life.  Society is dictated through media advertisement giving false information on how to move forward as a society. God does not ask us to have these items of luxury. Living a more frugal existence doesn’t mean that you go without the basic needs; it just addresses the need for items that are unnecessary. 

    Their inner qualities will shine through the mortal being of a person. The question of beauty will hold little or no meaning.  Yet making sure that you take care of yourself is not being vain; it is a way to ensure that you are able to give more, your own health is just as important.

    The growing of a soul comes from cultivation, learning that you are not only doing what you think to be true but believing from your inner most sanctums that you serve others and receive more from this work than from materialistic items.

    By Sharon Rowe, Spiritual Living360

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/what-makes-soul-beautiful.html

  17. Help other people and touch their lives meaningfully

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    The happiest people are those who are contented with what they currently have, not with what they lack. There really is nothing more rewarding in this world than helping other people improve their lives. This activity doesn’t only make you feel great about yourself – it also makes you value what you have in your life. Every little thing counts. You have the ability to make yourself feel to be more grateful in your life – never let anybody tell you different.

    Source: Lifehack

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/help-other-people-and-touch-their-lives.html

Live and Die for Buddhism

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Wall of Remembrance…

Wall of Remembrance…

BUDDHA OF THE BATTLEFIELD
His Holiness Maha Ghosananda
Supreme Patriarch of Cambodian Buddhism
His whole life for the Khmer Nation,
Buddhism & Peace (5/23/1913 - 3/12/07)
He will always be in my heart...

Major Differences in Buddhism

Major Differences in Buddhism

There is no almighty God in Buddhism. There is no one to hand out rewards or punishments on a supposedly Judgement Day ...read more

Lotus Flower

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What makes the lotus flower so special?

The lotus flower is one of the most ancient and deepest symbols of our planet. The lotus flower grows in muddy water and rises above the surface to bloom with remarkable beauty. At night the flower closes and sinks underwater, at dawn it rises and opens again. Untouched by the impurity, lotus symbolizes the purity of heart and mind.

Eternal Beauty

Eternal Beauty

The best way to fix a broken Heart

The best way to fix a broken Heart

My Reflection

My Reflection

This site is a tribute to Buddhism.
Buddhism has given me a tremendous inspiration to be who and where I am today. Although I came to America at a very young age, however, I never once forget who I am and where I came from. One thing I know for sure is I was born as a Buddhist, live as a Buddhist and will leave this earth as a Buddhist. I do not believe in superstition. I only believe in karma.

"My religion is very simple.
My religion is kindness"

"The whole purpose of religion is to facilitate love and compassion, patience, tolerance, humility, forgiveness." ~ Dalai Lama

Because it’s who you are

Because it's who you are

You don't do kind deeds expecting kindness in return. You don't do kind deeds because you deem the recipient worthy. You do kind deeds because it's who you are, and because you understand the powerful difference your gentle hand makes in this dreary world. ~Richelle E. Goodrich