1. The sun shines a little brighter…

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    Parents protect you. Enemies motivate you and friends complete you.
    The sun shines a little brighter, and life is so much sweeter. 
    For being with you takes me to a different place: a place called love. 

    ~Unknown

  2. What is unconditional love?

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    Within the relationship itself, unconditional love is the ability to love the other person as they are in their essence. If you have fallen in love with this person and want to build a lasting relationship with them, then you must view them as a unique individual — not as an extension of yourself.

    When you find someone who loves you as you are, and you are able to love them as they are,  it is an amazing experience. They may be different from you in many ways. They may view the world differently and have habits that you don’t share, but you can embrace these differences because they are part of this unique person you love.

    But is love enough to build a lasting relationship? And does unconditional love mean that no matter what your partner does, your feelings don’t change?

    The answer is “no” to both.

    Unconditional love within the context of a good relationship is a dance in which both partners participate. You begin with the essentials of self-love and mutual love and respect. You see and embrace the core of the other, their innate personality and worldview. You acknowledge the influences of their upbringing, life experiences, and ingrained behaviors.
    But . . . unconditional love within the context of a lasting relationship requires lots of wiggle room. As part of self-love, you know your own personal boundaries and the limits of what you find to be acceptable and healthy behaviors and reactions from your beloved.

    When both partners are aware of their personal boundaries and are committed to communicating them in loving and non-threatening ways, then the relationship can continue to recalibrate and grow ever stronger over the years.

    With the ability to communicate openly, negotiate willingly, and compromise and make adjustments, you can build a strong relationship in which unconditional love develops and grows more satisfying over time.

    For both partners, unconditional love means putting the health of the relationship above all else. This is a conscious decision made by both people. . .

    By Barrie Davenport
    Source: livebold and bloom

  3. Unconditional Love: The Key To Lasting Relationships

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    “Love… What is love? Love is to love someone for who they are, 
    who they were, and who they will be.” ~Chris Moore

    Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt it was the other person’s job to make you happy, to meet all of your needs, to understand you and know what you want without asking?

    Or have you been on the other side of this scenario? You were the partner expected to fulfill the other person and manage their happiness.

    Either situation is perpetually frustrating. One partner never feels happy and content in the relationship because they are looking to the other person to perform the impossible.

    Lasting relationships simply cannot be built upon a partnership in which one or both people are seeking a host organism to provide emotional and psychological nourishment.
    Lasting relationships require unconditional love.

    The term “unconditional love” might imply that one does attempt to meet all of the needs of the other, to read their minds, to accept and overlook all of the partner’s behaviors and actions no matter how selfish or demanding.

    But this is not unconditional love. This is co-dependent love. It’s not grounded in a healthy foundation of self-respect and respect for the unique individual sharing the relationship with you.

    By Barrie Davenport
    Source: livebold and bloom

  4. First photo taken by my Mother

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    My mother just learned how to take photo this morning. This is a very first snapshot from her. She said she could not find the other half of my body. That’s why you only see the top half of Jendhamuni underneath a few branches with a nervous smile! My mother said she loves those leaves hanging above my head very much!

    http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/07/first-photo-taken-by-my-mother.html

  5. Jendhamuni and the lotus plants again, of course!

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    My lotus plants look so beautiful and healthy!

    In case you don’t know, this is now my favorite shirt. I like this shirt a lot because it has so many colors. Also it has a huge flower in the front. And looks a lot better too, outside, nothing like you see in this photo! Oh, the shirt does not look that good, unless you wear a smile!;)

  6. Middle East Israeli fire kills refugees in Gaza UN school

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    So sad to see the innocent look of the poor little girl…
    Israeli shells have struck a UN school in the Gaza Strip, killing at least 19 people and wounding scores more, after Israeli ground troops made a significant push into the territory.

    Wednesday’s shelling of the Jabaliya refugee camp was the second time in a week that a UN school sheltering hundreds of homeless Palestinians had been hit, with the latest violence pushing the Gaza death toll over 1,280.

    http://kimedia.blogspot.com/2014/07/middle-east-israeli-fire-kills-refugees.html

  7. Your reactions…

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    Hold in your reactions. When you feel like you want to react to a situation, hold in the tears or shouting. Think about how you feel before you let yourself react. Once you start, it’s easy to snowball into a bigger reaction than the situation is really worth. Don’t bottle your emotions but do think of a better way to express them or save them until you are in a better, safer place.

    • Waiting until the next day to talk to someone who upsets you, for example, can be really good. You’ll have the chance to calm down and you’ll be better able to defend and express yourself.

    Keep some perspective. Think about the situation that’s happening around you and think about how it affects your life. Is it really as big a deal as it seems or is it really only going to set you off a little. Compare it to other problems that people might have, like getting cancer or having your house flood. Is it really that big a deal? No? Then don’t sweat it. Learning to let the small things slide off of you can really make a huge difference in how you experience your life.

    Source: wikiHow


Live & Die for Buddhism

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Maha Ghosananda

Maha Ghosananda

Supreme Patriarch of Cambodian Buddhism (5/23/1913 - 3/12/07). Forever in my heart...

Problems we face today

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Of the many problems we face today, some are natural calamities and must be accepted and faced with equanimity. Others, however, are of our own making, created by misunderstanding, and can be corrected...

Major Differences

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Major Differences in Buddhism: There is no almighty God in Buddhism. There is no one to hand out rewards or punishments on a supposedly Judgement Day ...read more

My Reflection

My Reflection

This site is a tribute to Buddhism. Buddhism has given me a tremendous inspiration to be who and where I am today. Although I came to America at a very young age, however, I never once forget who I am and where I came from. One thing I know for sure is I was born as a Buddhist, live as a Buddhist and will leave this earth as a Buddhist. I do not believe in superstition. I only believe in karma.

A Handful of Leaves

A Handful of Leaves

Tipitaka: The pali canon (Readings in Theravada Buddhism). A vast body of literature in English translation the texts add up to several thousand printed pages. Most -- but not all -- of the Canon has already been published in English over the years. Although only a small fraction of these texts are available here at Access to Insight, this collection can nonetheless be a very good place to start.

Just the way it is

1. Accept everything just the way it is.
2. Do not seek pleasure for its own sake.
3. Do not, under any circumstances, depend on a partial feeling.
4. Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world.
5. Be detached from desire your whole life long.
6. Do not regret what you have done.
7. Never be jealous.
8. Never let yourself be saddened by a separation.
9. Resentment and complaint are appropriate neither for oneself nor... read more