Healing the hurt that won’t go away

 

No one wants to be bitter. It sneaks up on us. Bitterness is unforgiveness fermented. The more we hold onto past hurts the more we become drunk on our pain and the experience can rob us of the joy we can find in anything.

Bitterness occurs when we feel someone has taken something from us that we are powerless to get back. We hold on to the hurt in an attempt to remind ourselves and others of the injustice we’ve experienced in the hopes that someone will save us and restore what we’ve lost. Unfortunately, bitterness only makes our sense of the injustice grow. It does nothing to heal the wound caused by the injustice. In fact, it causes the wound to become infected with anger.

When we are hurt, we have a tendency to turn the painful events over and over in our head or tell anyone who will listen about our pain–even over and over again. It is fine to talk to people we think can help us heal the hurt, facilitate reconciliation or help us rebuild our lives, but other than that, we should do what we can to stop dwelling on the story of our injury ourselves and stop speaking of it so freely to others.

Source: Patheos

http://leelavadeeflower.blogspot.com/2014/10/healing-hurt-that-wont-go-away.html

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Comments

  1. Carlos Bation

    October 2, 2014

    Wow ..interesting and inspiring post ..take UR time jenh need to rest ..praying for UR good health..hava a most peaceful day..

  2. Julius Mwaniki

    October 2, 2014

    Thanks for these inspiring words. Good day Jen

  3. Gina Alfa

    October 2, 2014

    Wow, so true. Very inspirational, thank you for sharing!

  4. Jayesh Thakkar

    October 2, 2014

    You are on a hat trick. I think you are in a very fine mood today Jendhamuni Sos.

  5. Ajay Agnihotri

    October 2, 2014

    Very beautiful post Jendhamuni..good morning.

  6. Ronnie Martin

    October 2, 2014

    Love the post, beautiful words n meaning Jen

  7. Kuma Ri

    October 2, 2014

    Beautiful

  8. N Sekar

    October 2, 2014

    See everybody in the light of love& bless him

  9. Zain 1

    October 2, 2014

    i like it

  10. Iceman Westside

    October 2, 2014

    Namaste' Jen , There not anyone that haven't experience pain The Creator of All feel pain of the way Ones treat each other without unconditional LUV . The Creator Forgive and Release Pain . That is why Forgiveness is so important . Unconditional LUV to All in this Moment……. Peace

  11. Emma Ui

    October 2, 2014

    If we can't forgive and forget our wound will never heal.in whichever situation you go through we have to pray and by the end of the day you will make it.thanks.

  12. Carlos Bation

    October 2, 2014

    Good night jenh..see U tomorow..glad to meet in my dreams..have a pleasant day..

  13. Sandeep Patil

    October 2, 2014

    hi jendhamani sos how are you good night

  14. Sally Nguyen

    October 2, 2014

    So true ,sister ! Have a good morning !

  15. Kathy Grimm

    October 2, 2014

    +Jendhamuni Sos Thank you for your wise words dear sister; they are very true. Thank you for sharing Sis. 💞

  16. Jay Bagley

    October 2, 2014

    I love that very cool thank you my hart dose hurt

  17. savianna savio

    October 2, 2014

    u know my dear i like to walk raining time without umbrella because nobody see my tiers.don't show anything until oneday bitterness.hurtness.forgiveness everything eat u

  18. william cox

    October 2, 2014

    So much wisdom! Thank you, Jendhumani. God bless you!

  19. Sofie Løve Forsberg

    October 2, 2014

    Ever since I became a buddhist I never experienced bitterness, anger nor regret.

  20. Maria Rivera

    October 2, 2014

    That color is so beautiful I love it!!!!

  21. Jay Bagley

    October 2, 2014

    you are wrlcome any time

  22. Jay Bagley

    October 2, 2014

    thank you beutafull god bless us all

  23. Gx Vv

    October 3, 2014

    As,wr,wb,


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