Someone we loved

 

We have all been hurt one time or another by someone we loved, or we thought we loved. Carrying negative feelings into future relationships will only prove to be disastrous. No two people are the same, so it’s unfair to hold a future partner to a standard set by an ex. Try to begin each new relationship with a clean slate.

~Elite Daily

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  1. Shiju Thomas

    September 22, 2014

    Where is my todays gift

  2. Michael Cammock

    September 22, 2014

    Sometimes we have to figure things out for ourselves….

  3. Reverend Steve Pastor DD RMT

    September 22, 2014

    At the "soul" level, we can connect and find a match – but we must be mindful on asking questions as to the source of that match, that connection. Do we connect because of similar unpleasant experiences, or because of list of qualities we seek in a romantic, soulmate relationship, or because we mirror something in each other that allows us to work on transforming some aspect of ourselves, or . . . et cetera. Looking back on past relationships is only useful if it provides us new access to an aspect of ourselves we are ready to replace, upgrade or transform beneficially. Looking on new relationships with a completely open, honest, conscious awareness of what we are thinking, feeling, perceiving about ourselves, the other person and our experiences together is very useful in our accessing our inner truth about the person and relationship. With such discernment, we can truly observe and decide the relationship as one of benefits for each of us or not. If it is not truly beneficial for both of us, we can then choose what is the best relationship we can share together, without smothering each other and the relationship with unconscious desires and needs that we both have long been generationally, familially, culturally, tribally conditioned with innocently and naively in our very early childhood years (before the age of 7 to 9 years old). Mindfulness in how we approach and choose relationships will greatly enhance our positive experiences of relationships – whether the relationship becomes romantic, friendship, brotherly/sisterly, et cetera.

  4. Reverend Steve Pastor DD RMT

    September 22, 2014

    At the "soul" level, we can connect and find a match – but we must be mindful on asking questions as to the source of that match, that connection. Do we connect because of similar unpleasant experiences, or because of list of qualities we seek in a romantic, soulmate relationship, or because we mirror something in each other that allows us to work on transforming some aspect of ourselves, or . . . et cetera. Looking back on past relationships is only useful if it provides us new access to an aspect of ourselves we are ready to replace, upgrade or transform beneficially. Looking on new relationships with a completely open, honest, conscious awareness of what we are thinking, feeling, perceiving about ourselves, the other person and our experiences together is very useful in our accessing our inner truth about the person and relationship. With such discernment, we can truly observe and decide the relationship as one of benefits for each of us or not. If it is not truly beneficial for both of us, we can then choose what is the best relationship we can share together, without smothering each other and the relationship with unconscious desires and needs that we both have long been generationally, familially, culturally, tribally conditioned with innocently and naively in our very early childhood years (before the age of 7 to 9 years old). Mindfulness in how we approach and choose relationships will greatly enhance our positive experiences of relationships – whether the relationship becomes romantic, friendship, brotherly/sisterly, et cetera.

  5. jumri fc

    September 22, 2014

    hem i like you
    because you are beatiful

  6. jumri fc

    September 22, 2014

    hem i like you
    because you are beatiful

  7. Perooru Jaru

    September 23, 2014

    Hurt filled world, heart fill required

  8. N Sekar

    September 23, 2014

    Be choosy in relationship

  9. Ajay Agnihotri

    September 23, 2014

    I agree. ..shadow of old relationship should not be affect on present relationship. ..great post Jendhamuni.

  10. Dwayne Small

    September 23, 2014

    Omg you are so beautiful

  11. Alicia Calimlim

    September 23, 2014

    Yes it's true it happened to everyone. Love is patient and kind.Sending u a big hugs my dear sister Jen.

  12. Maureen Majoli

    September 23, 2014

    Well past mistakes teach us how to handle new relationships

  13. mark beach

    September 23, 2014

    man you are so the same person as me when it comes to this type of emotion

  14. Chakra Stha

    September 23, 2014

    We loved to many pertion


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